Life is short. It may feel like it takes forever sometimes, but the reality is that you live, and a short time later, you die. It happens so quickly that many people don’t even realize they had a life until it’s already over.
So, have you noticed that there are things we all do that hold us back and stop us living our best lives? If you don’t want to be one of those people who looks back on their life with regret, here are some things you need to stop doing immediately:
Quit Doubting Yourself
If you don’t believe in yourself, nobody will. Success starts in your mind, and if all you’re doing is putting yourself down and predicting failure, it’ll become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Instead of doubting yourself, think positively. Not only will you be happier and more successful, you’ll spread it to everyone around you.
Whether it’s to be with a friend, to visit your elderly aunt, to watch the sunset or sunrise, to have a holiday, to read a book, to sleep peacefully, or to go to a funeral, our time is so precious and you will never know when you run out of time. When you procrastinate, you remain stagnant. Whatever you’re putting off doesn’t go away; it stays in front of you. Resolve the matter, and move on. You’ll be much happier in the long run.
Quit Waiting for your Situation to Change
Being stuck in a rut can lead to a vicious cycle. You feel down, so you don’t do anything to change your situation, which makes you feel even worse. Once you get into this cycle, all the components of your life begin to weigh each other down. If you’re feeling trapped, focus on just one thing you can work on today. Before you can run, you need to walk. Improve one small component of your life first.
Quit Waiting for the Right Time
Don’t wait for the “right time” for you to take action, to make the change, to leave your job, to follow your dream, to do whatever it is that you need to do to be happy and have a better life. There never is a right time to be courageous, to initiate change and chase your dreams. If you choose to keep waiting for the right time, accept that your life will pass by and you will never attain that life you desire. Choose not to wait and you will have that life you so desire.
Quit People Pleasing
Yes, you need to take care of people around you, such as your family and friends. But that doesn’t mean you should do things solely for the purpose of pleasing others. If you always follow others’ expectations to your own dissatisfaction, you’ll end up looking back and feeling resentment. It’s time to take a pause and evaluate what it is that you want. It’s not selfish to look after yourself and to make yourself top of the list more often.
Anxiety is especially prevalent today, with all the events happening in our lives and beyond. Chronic anxiety manifests itself into physical symptoms, such as breathing problems, ulcers, and heart disease. While there are an infinite number of things you can worry about, there are only a finite number of things you can control. Remember that you can’t change what others say or think about you. You can’t decide the actions other people take, or how they affect you. What you can do, though, is decide what your next step is.
Quit Living in the Past
The past is over and what is more important is where you are now and where you want to be in the future. All your past experiences, mistakes and failures in your life have prepared you for living your life in the present and in the future. Acknowledge your past and what you have learnt, then let the past go and move forward to the future. Instead of pondering over what you can’t change, use those past mistakes to proactively think about how you would do things today. Failures can be used to your advantage, if you’re willing to turn them into lessons for the future.
Quit Feeding your Ego
In today’s world, we are so quick to judge someone based on one single belief. The problem is, it’s impossible to fully understand a person’s belief system because you can’t possibly know all their life experiences that led to those beliefs. However, if you listen, you have an opportunity to learn and gain a better understanding. Stop assuming when somebody has an opposing view that they are wrong and stop assuming when one questions your beliefs that it’s a personal attack. Instead, assume it’s an opportunity to learn and expand your mind.
Quit Comparing Yourself to Others
In a world of Facebook and Instagram, it’s almost impossible not to compare yourself to others, but remember, what’s being posted is only what they want you to see. If you find yourself frequently envious of what others have, reframe your mind. Spend time writing what you’re grateful for. Focus on what you do have no matter how small or insignificant. Your mind will shift from scarcity to abundance. You’ll find greater satisfaction in all the pleasures of life that you’ve forgotten about.
Quit Beating Yourself Up
No matter what it is, stop beating yourself up about not being great, not being perfect, being too fat, not being good enough, not being intelligent enough – just stop it. Don’t beat yourself up for not knowing the answers. You don’t always have to know who you are. You don’t have to have the big picture, or know where you’re heading. Sometimes, it’s enough just to know what you’re going to do next.