Have you ever questioned if you and your best friend are something more?
The strongest relationships usually start as friendships, so the lines can get a bit blurred at times. There can be lots of signals that your friend has a crush on you, or that you have a crush on them, or that you are both super hung up on each other. However, the friend zone can be a confusing limbo if you’re physically attracted to the person — or a place you want you want to stay if you’re good with being just friends.
No matter what the circumstances, whether you’re the one with the secret crush, you suspect your friend likes you, or it’s a mix of the two, make sure that you respect your friend’s space and their feelings.
To help give you a sense of whether to broach the topic — and how to make sure you’re doing it carefully, for both of your sakes — here are some reliable flags to tell if your friendship is becoming something more.
- You daydream about them a lot.
Daydreams are a big give-away sign that deep down, you want to be more than just friends with them. Basically, if you can’t stop thinking about them, then you might have a huge crush that you don’t realize yet.
If you can’t stop thinking about them — particularly when you’re apart from them, or doing something that has nothing to do with them at all — it can indicate you’ve got it bad for them.
- You get jealous.
Have you ever felt a pang of jealousy when your friend spends their time with someone else? You thought they were just your friend and you simply loved hanging out with them, but the second they have a date with someone or hanging out with someone else, all of a sudden your heart gets really jealous. If so, then that is a big sign of a crush.
At this point, you have to address your feelings correctly so that you don’t sabotage your friendship. Come forward and admit your true feelings for this person, even if it means losing the friendship, or you need to back off from this person altogether.
- You gaze at each other.
Eyes are like windows into the soul. Incredible amounts of emotion can be communicated non-verbally through eye contact alone. People who are in love tend to look at each other’s eyes more than often. The look is usually prolonged for a few seconds. This happens subconsciously and for sure if you find yourself enjoying eye contact then you could be more than just friends.
Strong eye contact that results in a vibe that feels almost palpable, and seeing a certain glint in their eye may mean they’re into you. Pay attention.
- There is more physical contact.
Do you use any opportunity for physical contact? Chemistry between two people is a definite sign of attraction. If you notice more chemistry with this specific friend than with other friends, it is a sign something different is happening.
If the chemistry between you has been there from the beginning or you’ve recently noticed that more and more physical contact is happening between you two, it shows that your friendship is changing. Nudging with the elbow, rubbing the shoulder or attempting to hold the hand of a friend can all be signs that someone feels strongly about that person.
- Body language is different.
They lean in close. Their touch lingers. They flirt with you. Their eye contact is a little more intense. It is sometimes all in the body language. Is their arm around you? Do they open doors for you? Do you giggle more than usual? Maybe they want to hold you close or hug you.
These are signs that love is growing between the two of you. They want to be there for you and if you are upset, they might even wipe away the tears.
- You are always texting each other.
You are texting more frequently, and at all hours of the night. Maybe you used to check in with your pal every few days, but now you’re sending “good morning” and “night-night” texts. Even when you’re not actively texting, they’re sending you Instagram memes or DMing you reels they think you’ll like. This signals that they’re thinking about you, or you’re thinking about them, even when you’re not “together.”
Whom we think about is who we connect with when we are alone. If they’re reciprocating, there’s a good chance that something you two are both wondering “are we more than friends?”
- You spend long hours together, alone.
Another sign that you are more than just a friend is the number of hours you spend together. You both love spending time together and you could make any excuse just to be with them.
Someone who views a friend on more intimate levels will do anything for some one-on-one time with them. A clear sign of someone who wants a more romantic relationship with a friend is their complete disregard of all of their mutual friends when spending time in large groups, usually monopolizing all of their time.
- You think and feel about them differently.
Somewhere along the line, the way you think and feel about this person has changed. You enjoy being around them in a way that is different from how you are with your other friends. You see qualities in them others don’t, and when something happens, good or bad, you automatically want to tell that person about it.
They’re the first one you want to talk to in the morning and the last you want to speak with at night. They are the first one that comes to mind that you want to share with. This indicates something more than just friendship.