8 Definite Signs you should Break up

Breaking up is never an easy thing to do. But being in a bad relationship can wear away at you and turn you into someone you barely recognize. You know you’re unhappy, but you try to convince yourself otherwise because it just seems easier.

One of the most important relationship skills is knowing when to walk away. Knowing when it’s not right. It isn’t always the easy thing to do, but it is really your only option and you’re only delaying the inevitable and cheating yourself out of happiness by not facing the truth.

Sometimes the signs are clear cut, and other times, it’s a gut feeling that we’ve been trying to ignore for months (and sometimes even years). Even when you’ve decided to end the relationship, it’s a lot easier said than done. So, we continue to stay.

If you’ve been considering a breakup but don’t know how to clear assess the signs to do so, here are a few indicators that let you know it’s time to walk away — once and for all.

  1. You’ve grown apart.

Have you felt a rift between you that can’t be explained? Has it become increasingly difficult to communicate or share your likes and interests?

If so, then you’re living in the past and holding onto the memories of how great things used to be. Never mind the fact that things haven’t been good in a very long time. Once upon a time you got along, you were madly in love, you laughed and enjoyed each other. But how long will you hang onto these memories? When will you accept that the shiny past no longer exists and all you have is a gloomy present?

  • You don’t feel like a priority.

You continuously feel neglected, insignificant, and/or not cared for in the relationship. There’s a major difference between having a partner who is busy with commitments and a partner who doesn’t make time for you.

If your partner is consistently inattentive and neglectful of your needs and wants, despite your best efforts in communicating your needs to them, then it’s fair to say your partner is not valuing you and the relationship.

  • There’s no trust or respect.

If your relationship lacks trust, respect, and stability it means it is going nowhere. If you can’t trust your partner in anything they do or say, or if your partner is constantly doubting you, it is a sign of an unhealthy relationship that will not last long.

If your significant other has a history of lying or cheating, this causes a buildup of resentment that can quickly poison your relationship over time.

  • You feel drained.

Being around your partner doesn’t feel good anymore and it hasn’t for a long time. You don’t feel uplifted, excited, or inspired. You feel like you’ve been through an emotional war. You feel drained and exhausted like you have nothing left to give.

You know the feeling. That’s that feeling of utter hopelessness and despair because no amount of trying seems to get you anywhere.

  • The relationship feels one-sided.

If you’re always the one suggesting dates to your partner, calling them, texting them, or making plans, it indicates that they aren’t willing to make the effort required to keep the relationship dynamic fresh.

When your needs are not met and if you are the only one who is actively working on keeping the relationship alive, then they are surefire signs you should break up.

  • You fight nonstop.

While disagreements are an inevitable part of being a couple, you shouldn’t feel like you’re always waiting for the next explosion. Unresolved conflicts that turn disrespectful and demeaning over time can severely affect your emotional well-being.

Ask yourself whether you’re both finding a new reason to argue every day. If the answer is yes, it may be time for you to part ways.

  • You feel like you’re walking on eggshells.

You can’t just relax because you’re always anxious and on edge. Your relationship feels like a minefield. A step in the wrong direction and here comes the explosion. So, you tiptoe around, too afraid to do or say almost anything because everything turns into a fight.

You feel physically ill most of the time. There’s a perpetual lump in your throat and knot in your stomach and you are in a hyper-vigilant state, waiting for the next explosion. That’s not good.

  • You think about breaking up all the time.

Wondering whether to stay together every once in a while, is normal. It’s when you can’t stop thinking about being apart that you should worry.

Being with someone shouldn’t be a continuous struggle of hoping for the other person to change. If you can’t imagine growing older with them as they are right now, it’s probably time to break up.

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